Being Grateful

family_laughingMost of us are bombarded with countless stressors and may grumble regularly in response to the onslaught. Though I wish I could brush off daily frustrations with grace, I frequently find myself grumbling when I have to navigate through a particularly rough day. Our society is running at a lightning pace, so rapidly that it is next to impossible to allow ourselves an opportunity to stop and enjoy the moment. We bitch and moan about traffic, spilled coffee, being late for appointments, our cell phones losing their charges, etc., and in the process stir up anxiety and discontent in our lives, when we should be grateful for the many gifts and blessings that surround us.

It is easy to think that if we stop for a moment, everything will come crashing down, when in reality that is usually NOT the case. I have taken a baby step in my incredibly busy life lately, and have spent the last few weeks making sure to spend a few minutes every morning petting and snuggling with my cats, enjoying their calm and loving energy, and remembering to breathe and pause before the craziness of day to day life hits. I also am keenly aware of the struggles of a couple of dear friends who are dealing with cancer right now, and cannot even imagine how tremendously difficult their lives must be now that circumstances have caused mundane annoyances to come to a screeching halt. When life is stressful but somehow comfortable in its frenetic rhythm, a catastrophic event or illness will obliterate that false comfort. Suddenly leaving the toilet seat up or getting the wrong food order at a restaurant doesn’t have the same impact or importance.

Now that Thanksgiving is approaching, those of us in the United States will get a yearly reminder to be grateful for all the wonderful things we have. However, I hope that people around the entire globe will embrace the approaching holidays with a renewed appreciation for life and the loved ones around them. It is a blessing to live with good health, surrounded by those we love. If you are fortunate enough to have both, allow things to slow down enough for you to take notice of your surroundings. Put the computer aside, enjoy the outdoors, spend time with your pets or children, visit your relatives, laugh with friends. You might not believe it, but you are allowed to put things aside briefly. The world won’t come crashing down if you do.

List Of 2014 Pro Bikini Events

IFBB LEGENDS PRO BIKINI CLASSIC
Feb 1st – Las Vegas, Nevada

BIKINI INTERNATIONAL
Feb 28-March 1st – Columbus, Ohio

AUSTRALIA PRO
March 7-8th – Melbourne, Australia

MUSCLECONTEST.COM PRO
March 8th – Culver City, California

ST. LOUIS PRO
March 8th – St. Louis, Missouri

NEW ZEALAND PRO
March 15th – Auckland, New Zealand

BATTLE ON THE BEACH
March 28-29th – Daytona Beach, Florida

EUROPA SHOW OF CHAMPIONS
April 11-12th – Orlando, Florida

PITTSBURGH PRO
May 3rd – Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

IFBB EUROPA DALLAS
May 9-10th – Dallas, Texas

NEW YORK PRO
May 17th – New York, New York

TORONTO PRO SUPERSHOW
May 30 -31st – Toronto, Canada

IFBB DENNIS JAMES CLASSIC
May 31st – Phoenix, Arizona

IFBB NORTHERN CALIFORNIA PRO BIKINI
June 7th – California
Promoter: Ted Williamson/John Tuman

GREATER GULF STATES
June 20-21st – New Orleans, Louisiana

IFBB PATRIOTS PRO BIKINI CLASSIC
July 5th – Las Vegas, Nevada

TAMPA PRO BODYBUILDING WEEKLY CHAMPIONSHIPS
August 8-9th – Tampa, Florida

ORANGE COUNTY MUSCLE CLASSIC
August 9th – Culver City, California

IFBB DALLAS PRO
August 16 – Dallas, Texas

ST. LOUIS PRO
August 23rd – St.Louis, Missouri

IFBB PITTSBURGH MASTERS PROFESSIONAL CHAMPIONSHIPS
August 30th – Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania

BIKINI OLYMPIA
September 19-20th – Las Vegas, Nevada

IFBB KOREAN PRO
September 27th- Korea

EVL’S PRAGUE PRO
October 4th – Prague, Czech Republic

IFBB NORDIC PRO
October 11th – Lahti, Finland

FORT LAUDERDALE CUP
October 18th – Ft. Lauderdale, Florida

EUROPA PHOENIX
October 25-26th – Phoenix, Arizona

SACRAMENTO PRO
October 30-November 1st – Sacramento, California

IFBB IOWA PRO
November 8th – Davenport, Ohio

IFBB IRONGAMES PRO
November 8th – Culver City, California

IFBB TIJUANA PRO
November 14-15th– Tijuana, Mexico

IFBB RUSSIAN PRO
November 28-29th– Russia

IFBB FERRIGNO LEGACY
November 28-29th – Santa Barbara, California

Facebook Is NOT A Dating Site

FBI am extremely tired of the random strangers who find it necessary to troll around women’s Facebook profiles, look up relationship status, assess degree of hotness, then send suggestive and annoying emails in an effort to snag a date. Since when was Facebook designated as a dating website? When I get an email from someone who clearly has no idea who I am but simply came across my profile image and thought I was hot, my defense mechanisms are triggered, and I will not even bother to reply to the majority of such communications. I also fail to see the point of flirting with someone on the other side of the globe. Is it THAT difficult to meet eligible partners in one’s own country? Also, how does one propose to meet the object of his desire if she resides thousands of miles away in another country? This is of course assuming that the lady is interested, which in my case is NEVER applicable.

I am well aware of the cyberstalking that occurs when a man is interested in a woman he encounters online. To be honest, it is rather creepy. In the past four years, I have been asked out online via Facebook far more than I have been in person, and have been harrassed by men who were desperate to date me, even when I was in a committed relationship and cohabiting with my man. Some men will not take no for an answer and will pester a woman to the point where she must employ the blocking feature simply to get rid of the guy. I have had men call me every name in the book, threatening and insulting me when I rejected their cyber advances.

Ladies, be hyper-vigilant with these men! Do NOT allow them to manipulate you. The blocking feature on Facebook is a valuable tool, so USE IT. Men, be respectful and understand that most women will not be receptive to a complete stranger asking her out on a date via a non-dating website. If a woman rejects your offer to take her out, bow out graciously. Don’t be a jerk and insult her simply because your ego is bruised. Such behavior is sociopathic and misogynistic.

Facebook is a great social media site, so don’t abuse it.

Want Shapely Legs? Try This Routine

If you have good upper body definition but are noticing that your legs are lagging behind in the definition department, try the following routine two to three times per week to add lean muscle mass and shape. Perform each exercise in a superset in order without resting. Once you are done with a superset, pause for 30 to 45 seconds, then continue with the next one.

Stacey Naito’s Leg Blast For Shapely Legs:

SUPERSET #1:

4 x 15 leg extensions
4 x 15 jump squats
4 x 15 plie squat holding dumbbell between legs (Go very low so end of dumbbell touches floor. Come up only partway.)

SUPERSET #2:

4 x 15 prone leg curls
4 x 15 one legged lunge jumps (Hold onto Smith bar for support. Perform all reps on one leg, then switch.)
4 x 15 one legged leg presses

SUPERSET #3:

4 x 20 butt blaster machine
4 x 15 outer thigh machine

SUPERSET #4:

4 x 20 seated calf raises
4 x 20 non-weighted one legged standing calf raises

Getting Bitten Again

I honestly thought that my thirst for competing would fizzle out once I earned my Pro Card. It took five years of competing before that coveted goal was met, and I was exhausted from repeatedly hitting the national NPC contest circuit every year. Yet as soon as I hit the Pro stage in Sacramento and Culver City this month, I felt that same drive to compete that I always felt as an amateur. That same challenge to reach a personal best took hold of me, only this time, the stakes were raised significantly. However, even with a low placing, I will always be a Pro no matter what. I have a realistic viewpoint of my potential performance as a Pro, and as a result, I want to make sure that I have a BLAST competing from this point. If the elements all line up, I would love to do one or two international Pro shows next year, and perhaps do a couple of East Coast Pro events. There are a total of THIRTY Pro Bikini contests in 2014, so it will be a banner year for the division!

My Pro debut...here with Amanda Latona

My Pro debut…here with Amanda Latona

Competition Suit Addiction

These are the Pro level suits I have in my current rotation. I am already thinking about another one!

These are the Pro level suits I have in my current rotation. I am already thinking about another one!

I have to admit that I suffer from competition suit addiction. Since 2009 I have purchased nineteen suits for the purpose of wearing them onstage, and of those nineteen I ended up wearing thirteen of them over the span of 22 contests. Granted, my body has changed, as have popular competition suit styles. However, I can’t help but fantasize about getting a new suit in a color or cut I haven’t worn before. I imagine such an addiction must be rather similar to what women go through when they want to shop for new clothing. Personally, I HATE shopping, so looking for new clothing is not something that appeals to me at all. Competition suits are a different matter altogether, because they are usually custom made to the competitor’s specifications and body measurements.
Red suit
Part of my quest for the perfect suit stems from the fact that certain colors may look very different onstage. Case in point is a red suit I had made which I thought would look fantastic onstage. Once the lights hit it, though, the red appeared flat and almost orange, which wasn’t bad, just not what I wanted. Color and suit cut are very important, so choose wisely when selecting a suit. Pick a color that resonates with you and one that you know will look good on you onstage. If your coach or someone who has an eye for this sort of thing tells you to go with a certain color, take their advice. I have seen competitors choose suit colors on their own, only to look washed out onstage because they did not heed the advice of more knowledgeable people.

While some competitors have a signature color (Amanda Latona is known for her red suits, and Ashley Kaltwasser is known for her emerald green suits), others will switch constantly. If you have the money to keep switching suits, that is fine, but it is better to stick with one or two color which you know will work well for your coloring. I have worn several shades of green, several shades of blue, white, black, lavender, zebra print, red, and apricot onstage over the last five years, and I can definitely say that certain colors were not the best choice for me. Of course that just gave me an excuse to have new suits made!

However, if a suit works for you, keep wearing it. I wore a royal blue suit at my third national contest in 2010 and broke into the top ten, so I kept wearing that suit for the entire year. I landed a first place national finish as well as two more top ten finishes in that suit. Then in 2011 I made a custom suit with crystallized peacock feathers which I wore throughout that year and which brought me three first place national finishes. I began my 2012 competition season with the red suit I mentioned before, but it just never looked right, so I switched over to a new green suit. I landed another first place finish in the green suit. Finally, this year I wore a light blue suit for my warmup contest but it was too big for me and did not sit right on my body, so I switched it up again, wearing an apricot suit which got me a Pro Card win.
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Though I truly had valid reasons for changing my suits over the years, I find myself daydreaming, thinking about what color or cut might look good on my body now. It’s pretty silly since I am broke and should not even entertain buying a pumpkin spice latte at Starbucks, but I guess I am pretty locked into my obsession with blingy competition suits!